The blatant exorbitant expenditure ,
Why are all marriages in night ?? The entire philosophy follows ...vidaayi taaron ki chaon mein ,but while yhe Baraat is always late !! the actual vidaayi takes place in the morning !
Thousands of senseless ceremonies , I do not think that the day of marriage is a happy day for any bride andgroom because of these ceremonies but then I may be wrong
Horrible music is quite popular in UP ,even an original version ..it is sung in a horrible screechy male voice : hello hello 123 check check
Long hours sitting at stage,posing for hundreds of photographs most with strangers and relatives whom one would never again see in life !
One thing very common is the entire sysytem of not wearing woolens ...however it may be permissible in case of hot ones like me ! :) The men are all suited up. Are they ever in backless? sleeveless? (ok not so gay display) but are they ever in just trousers and shirts?
And then ,What I also don't understand is the entire floral decoration in bed room . Suhaag -Raat is actually a floral night ! What's the need? is it an achievement to count the number of crushed flowers in morning? or does cleaning the rotten flowery mess a day or two later gives inexpressible joy ? why waste so many flowers?
Ideally there should be court marriage and the day next n a grand reception (lunch) for closed friends. Does one like being dragged to marriages of acquaintances? NO, so why call acquaintances for yours?
Then there is this entire element of bitching and criticism , no one is ever satisfied after attending a marriage. What was she wearing . He was so snobby. No one took care of the relatives . She wears the same jewellery every time etc. etc.. Also in case anyone is facing marital problems , unknown to him/ her the entire family and far off relatives discuss the subject with gay abandon.
This one stupid comment generally made by dadi's / Nani's बिलकुल राम सीता कि जोड़ी हैं | OK 1st of all no one should wish for a life like them and 2ndly give me a break! ....
I wonder what this institution actually deals with !Simple Mary - Hales like Mangalam bhagwan vishnu ...... dont change anything ! I mean shaadi ke baad bhi the same thing happens ..it does nt change ,,your work ,,your other things etc etc ....
Well,this can mean that i'm advocating love marriages here ....Walking over to the drawing room with the tray in hand ,switching over from skirts-jeans to heavy suits and even other some crappy things amidst and finally ...getting to marry one and forcing youselves to love your husband coz you have to ...?Anyway ,,,no debate intended here ,,i feel love marriages are good as long as they dont turn to arranged ones ,,and the arranged are good only if they turn to like love-marriages. I can go on forever on this issue this topic...although I am just very far from the marriage - vantage and would like to push it as far as I can !
! Before that ,I would like to make one quick observation on mothers of eligible bachelors. This has been my observation since childhood. These women (barring the educated sober rare exceptions of course ) are a menace at any marriage. She somehow has a very superior air around her, it's like every one at the marriage gathering's highly impressed with her son and all girls wanna marry him.
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